Not a widow's handbook
Tales of a twenty-four years old widow
I was a twenty-four-year-old domestic violence surviving widow! I could barely say this in one breath but I wanted it all “solved” at once. What I did not anticipate; is how empowering of a journey it would become.
I was recently made aware of a most appropriate definition of "empowerment".
To empower is "to create an environment in which one is free to discover, create/recreate and affirm themselves."
I remember that first week, my neighbor Diane said to me "O honey, I wish I could tell you it will be easy. I will tell you that it becomes easier". Diane was a widow herself. According to Diane there wasn't a way she could find to help me prepare for the years I were about to live. However, I saw her heart and that was enough.
Of course, this blog/book isn't an attempt at writing a Widow's handbook. This is more of a heartfelt, raw and unfiltered answer to those of us who face adversity with; "I can't imagine".
No worries! Neither could I in a million years have imagined any of what I've shared with you.
I have learned this; we are stronger than our biggest storms! This is a concept that I knew to believe my entire life. But as you expect, theory is sweeter than practice.
I make this promise to you; no matter the storm which eye you are currently standing in, you have full potential and full capabilities to win. Trust in yourself to move mountains, to defy standards and to come out of it victorious. Also, if someone offers help? Take it! Remain humble (yet confident) and claim your victory!
"As long as you can still grab a breath, you fight. You breathe... keep breathing."
- hugh glass in the revenant movie